An Ultimate Success By Developing A Strong Self-Image

  A simple definition of a person's self-image is their answer to this question - "What do you believe people think about you?".There are chronic tips to get an ultimate success by developing a strong self image .

No More Excuses :

Stop furnish excuses for failures , blame others & Bad Luck etc. Well there is no failure or success but results are there . For unsatisfactory results we get experiences & from satisfactory / expected results we get  Achievements. We usually figure out reasons from unsatisfactory results for the outer world in the shape of lame excuses but it really  hurts our self image badly. There are result no failure or success , this is we who interpret results as Success or  Failure.

Pride in Yourself:

Self pride is the sense of your worth & value as a person in your own eyes. It is about how much do you like  yourself? Because until & Unless you will not have pride in yourself then nobody will have proud on you . Value yourself as much high much you can . You should have a pride at your family , on your school , College  university , Organization because if you will not value your institution or organization then nobody else will value it , develop an extreme  pride for yourself  .

Take care of your Appearance :

Especial care should be given to you appearance & wardrobe . You should  adopt your appearance as you would like to be as a Successful Person i.e. visualize your attire what you will put on once you will achieve your goal and become successful  , there is saying that you should wear clothes at your current job which is requirement of your next job – dressed yourself for next job or role .

Keep Yourself in Good Shape:

You must do some physical exercises to keep yourself in a good shape & remain physically fit , because if you will be doing physical exercises then  your brain will be getting more oxygen & blood circulation . You will not only enjoy your  dressing  but also you will feel good about yourself & feel more confident , which will ultimately emerge a positive self image which is a key for success.

Select what you  allow to go into your brain:  

You have a most precious asset with you “The Brain” ; use it in  proper manner & positive manner for that you have to set filter over the things i.e. only positive things should be allowed to go into your brain. What happen, when you throw garbage in a empty box ,eventually  it will become a trash box  and only rubbish & nonsense things would be coming out of it. Same is the case with Brain if negative & cynical things would be placing into brain , it will depict on yourself image and it is an impossible thing to get an ultimate success with negative self-image.  

Believe in yourself – you Can:

You can do anything but not everything , you must have a definitive confidence on yourself that you can do anything. If you will be hesitated or if you will not believe in yourself  then believe me you can’t accomplished your desire task as you want . Have you ever observed the Horse who jumps over the Obstacles very easily . How does he Jump ? actually he builds  a telepathic relationship with rider’s  brain & heart,  due to the self believe of rider ,he catches the signal of can do attitude, if rider will hesitate & doubtful  , horse will never going to  jump over the obstacle ,. It is necessary to have a firm believe in yourself & can do attitude to get an ultimate success.

No fear to Mistake :

The person who does nothing  , he does not make mistakes and eventually does not get success. We should not have any sort of fear about mistake and errors , we just keep on working towards our goal of success. Research shows when its been asked to successful entrepreneurs that “what is a Key to success? Nearly all replied in a same manner , they just keep forward & taking steps towards their destiny , most of the time they made lot of faults and mistakes but the credence of right step supersede the all effects of such mistakes . Just keep moving ahead , mistake is nothing its a experience and another way of doing the right thing


Positive Statements:

It is very vital for emerging a positive & strong self image that you must be making positive statements and using it in your daily life . There are some definite tips hat say to yourself “ you can do” , “ Do it now” , “ I am master of this thing” , I have all the potential to get success” before starting any task . “I am the most confident & successful person on the universe” paste it on your car’s dash board , on your motor bike speed meter , in your wash room where you usually brush your teeth & wash your face. Daily in the morning & in night when you go to bed for sleep , just repeat those words which is your weakness i.e. “I am good at English” or “I can face the audience very easily” etc. It will boost your confidence & you can overcome your weaknesses.



Check your Environment:

There is very famous saying that “ the person is been knowing by his friends’ company” , if you want to build your positive self image then you must join the company of those people who would be full of enthusiasm , Positivity , energy , Zeal. Check your environment before joining any company and avoid negative & pessimistic environment .



Do Some Charity Work:

It is very necessary for emerging a positive self image, self respect & self esteem that you must do some sort of charity work . Help others to accomplished their tasks . It will emerge the sense of achievement which will reflect on yourself image .


Compile a Success Record:

Maintain a file or scrap book to compile success record it may include you school report cards , certification of achievement , your first offer letter , appointment letter , confirmation letter, Snaps , anything which you value most include it . Go though it periodically & get the sense of success & achievement , share it with your family members , friends & colleagues etc.

Craft of Delegation

One of my friends is working on a managerial position with a team of 4 people who are reporting to him. But I have never found him free, calm or in leadership role. He always seems to be occupied with messy desk, working at different tasks. He is not doing a job from 9 am – 5 pm but rather 9 am – 9 pm. 

When I asked him “why don’t you delegate some tasks to your team & then you could be free to dedicate some time to your personal development as well”; he replied “they will not do it as good as I do” and I don’t have time to train people and then to check the whole task again. So I rather prefer to do it myself to save time.

Replying to his rather shoddy answer, “yes initially it will be time consuming but as the time will pass on, maturity will emerge in the subordinates to whom you have delegated.

Actually, delegation is the best possible use of time & talent of the employees - matching the right talent with the right job to accomplish the mutual organization objective and being a delegator, we add value. One thing is very vital that what tasks are being delegated, before delegation of task here are some questions which should be answered;

• Can this task be done by some other person?

• Can I contribute towards some other strategic and worthwhile objectives?

• What value will I add once the delegated task will be completed?

Delegation enhances empowerment and synergy among the employees which results in higher motivation, professional growth , successor grooming, Trust Building , Effective Span of Control & reduce the bureaucracy in terms of approvals & minor decision making. 

One manager by delegating his routine operational task to his / her subordinates can stay more focused towards strategic and worthwhile objectives. S/He can add value in delegated task on completion. It flourishes the abundance mentality – there is lot more for others and every one get the pie of cake equally. Effective delegation is a crucial tool for effective succession, it is a two way process in the real sense. It is the craft of delegation that it is Effective for Successor & Manager too. The main task of the Manager to grow his/ her subordinates and once people grow, the organization grow. When organization grows everybody moves on higher positions and when it fails to happen the succession and progression becomes dependent on bringing in new people from outside. Individual success will derive the team success & ultimately team success will drive the Organization’s success. 

Delegation is not happen for freeing up the boss’s time from his task or from worthwhile objects but it is an effective management tool to make one more responsible for his/ her delegated tasks.

Following are the Steps for Effective delegation;

Win/ win Agreement : It is the most important phase of delegation , first we have to seek the willingness of recipient - to whom we are about to delegate any task or responsibility and create the win/win situation because it is a two way process ,it will lose its effectiveness if we impose it to any one without getting others agreement. Mostly delegated task fails due to win / lose situation and to make it effective we have to create a win/ win agreement. Delegation should be done with the purpose to merely delegate the task but it should be done for matching the right talent for delegated task.

Desire Results: Once you get the Win/ win agreement on delegated task, then specify them the desire result / outcome – why the task has been delegated to them /someone? In this phase we should focus/ discuss on desire results and outcome rather than the method/ process for accomplishing a task.

Set Goals & time lines: After producing a win/win agreement & intimation of the desired results, we should ask recipient about his plan, goals & time lines – Start & finished dates. Kick of meeting should be done after having a win/win agreement on desire results .It is the responsibility of the delegator that he has to track the set goals & time line periodically & mentor him if recipient of task is being deviating from his agreed track.

Utilization of Available resources: It is not limited to the human resources utilization only - match the right talent with the right job, but also about the utilization of finances, environment, opportunities etc. we should provide all the available resources to the recipient to make him successful because best utilization of available resources is the key to success in delegated task.

Authority: Balanced authority is a must for the success of the delegated task. This means that the person whom you have delegated a task must have corresponding authority to the task, so that he/she does not refer back to you on petty matters and can make decisions on the spot, if required. This will boost the level of confidence for taking up even higher responsibilities next time by the individual and save so much time.

Accountability : Time to time updates on delegated task make the recipient accountable , we should not intervene in the method/ process of work which is being followed by the recipient rather effectiveness of desire outcome and results, otherwise recipient’s ownership will be hurt. Delegator should communicate him clearly; what is expected from him? And what is his actual performance against the delegated task?

“Supervision” the way you receive and agree to do delegated tasks is one of the central skills of 'Managing upwards'. Therefore while this page is written from the manager's standpoint, the principles are just as useful for people being managed.