Don't Try To Defeat ... Try to Win!!!

Why do we think to cut down our expenses rather think about increasing our income? Similarly 80 % of the people always think about the minor or negative perspective first .Before starting anything people usually think about the failure or the negative perspective rather than thinking how can they avoid failure? And because of the fear of failure they never start a new project or business with the thought of success or win and somebody else does the same thing as they thought and win the reward. And this happens for so small things in life; For e.g. when we do receive a call at mid-night, why we start getting negative thoughts first. It is maybe naturally we are prone to go negative at first and maybe positive later.

Why do we try to defeat people and not win or rather think to win them? We have a supersonic computer given by God which is swiftest than an any other machine or computer in the universe, it is our brain. The belief or the invincible affirmation that you will give to your brain, your brain will derive your attitude, actions & behaviors derive accordingly. We should expect the best and we should keep practicing this habit. Because repetition is the mother of skill. We have to plug our brain with positivity and invincible affirmations so that positive vibes can be generated through it, for that reason there is a need to align our eyes & brain, so that synchronization can be created. It is limited to us that what we observe, I am not talking about see the things as they are because seeing the things is not deliberate part but what we observe through our eyes is a deliberate part and it stores in our brain . Our eyes & brain is like an empty box; we can make it dustbin by accumulating garbage and can make it a vase by accumulating flowers .So we should always try to win people by our actions, thoughts, gesture & posture. When we will always think about winning them, then our brain will derive our actions as a winner. We should not think about others defeat or to defeat someone but we should omit the word defeat from our life’s dictionary. One can sum up his life way out by just applying a simple formula that is “Never Try to Defeat, Try to Win” and you may see miracles happening.

By : Syed Shahzad Ali
HR Expert

Defeat your Mattress & Appetite

Yesterday my junior colleague came late & on my enquiry, he told me that "last night he could not have deep sleep that’s why he had been late…."

Can we not defeat our mattress ? if our day starts with defeat on mattress by sleep, then our whole day will be through in the same manner. We will be gulping up in hurry the breakfast – it may harm our digestive system; we will be speeding up in driving to reach at our destiny – it may lead us towards road accidents etc, we will be getting defeated everywhere and the most harmful thing is that we will be crushing our self esteem & self respect as well with all these defeats .

Imagine what if , we start our day with a victory on our sleep & mattress, we will feel proud on our self , it will boost or self confidence & commitment , It will increase our trust on others – Remember trust is the name of character & competence , if one element will be missing then we will not remain trust worthy any more . When we sign our appointment/ contract letter , we make a promise with our employer that we will come on time and through this we create our trust on our employer , if we fail to do so then we lose our trust-worthiness first then our trust .

I remember those days when my brother was dong his PhD. & Alhamdulillah at last he got it and why he shouldn’t get it? He is a master of his will ,he has a extreme command over his mattress.

He used to sleep 5 hours a day because his sleep or mattress was his subordinate rather he would become his mattress prison. In my entire 7 years of professional career , my salary has never been deducted on account t of late comings.

Mattress reformatory is not limited to sleep only but there are some other ways as well where we defeated by our mattress. One of my Uncle has been a mattress prisoned for long time , it is his daily routine that when he comes back from office he does nothing except lying on a comfortable mattress watching Programmes like “ Aaj Kamran Khan Kay Sath where the ( Langra , Loola , Doobta , Girta Pakistan )” is always the focus, HUH how very constructive and full of enthusiasm program about Pakistan for Pakistanis. Definitely the level of motivation can be ascertained when you watch such types of programmmes.

Some time People limit themselves to their mattresses for no reason ( aenwey ) .

Triumph over mattress means you have attained a self victory . Until & unless you don’t have a self victory's attitude, you cannot get victory on others , you can’t make any positive influence on others. So start your day victorious - as a champion, get extensive self control to get the things done. And if you don’t put yourself in pain – the pain of not having long sleeps .

Getting up early in the morning, offering the morning prayer , going for exercise & having fresh air- a person can achieve any mile stone if he has committed himself and has command over his mattress & appetite.

Patient: The problem is that obesity runs in my family.

Doctor: No, the problem is that no one runs in your family.

I saw people die not due to hunger but due to over eating. They are subordinate to their appetites . We should have limited healthy food AND we should eat for living rather living for eating .

If we can’t resist against our favirite but  high cholesterol & junk food, so how can we possibly resist against any wrong doing .

Make the mattress & appetitesubordinate to you ,instead of you becoming subordinate to them.