What happens if a hockey player scores a goal & Coach didn’t praise him on the ground by saying “Shabash Bachay” or “Great Goal“ or “Superb” but later on he would do it in the locker room ? For sure it would not have that much impact as it would have been, if done on the ground at time he scored a goal . What if he express his feeling with low energy & fragile vocabulary on the ground? So timing & selection of words derive our actions. Sometimes we do not give much importance to our vocabulary much and it is our words which change our action in enthusiasm or passion.
We have to transform our vocabulary in order to be motivated our selves like we have to commit ourselves that we will not use word PROBLEM anymore in our entire life instead of challenge or confront because when we use word PROBLEM then our brain creates a Metaphor of “pitiable or perplexed person asking for help” and when we use word CHALLENGE, the metaphor of fighter would be created by our brain. Our actions & behaviors have been derived by the metaphors created by our brains, so we have got to change our daily use of vocabulary and relate the positive metaphor with it.
Would you like to see any film again and again which you have rated flop earlier? For sure “Big NO”, in the same way we should replace our all metaphors & vocabulary which will turn around our disempowerment into empowerment. “I am getting tensed” can be changed to “I am concerned or little bit peeved”. Anxiety can be treated as a state where we are getting ready to energize to prove ourselves. We should take anxiety – restless feelings, of Interviews, Exams or Office Presentations as opportunity to prove ourselves. In anxiety we would be restless internally because we would be getting energizing inside out.
There are so many impressive words which we can use in our daily routine, if we’re[a1] having a great time (at a party or working on your business) and you just say, “It’s okay, Fine” you’ll be robbing yourself of some of the juice that you could be getting. Instead say, “This is fantastic.” perfect… extraordinary… phenomenal… energized… brilliant… ecstatic… incredible…awesome…fabulous……..Top of the world because when we say “ its fine or Okay “ then our brain create a metaphor of “deprived person” but when we use lively words as I mentioned above then it shows your over all personality that how much contented you are ? You can send enormous messages to other person through your right transformational vocabulary.
You can use modifiers too for irritation , tension , deprived, dejected moments etc:
- a little bit peeved
- somewhat concerned
- kind of unfortunate
- that’s rather inconvenient
& for joyful & ecstatic moments
- absolutely wonderful
- totally awesome
- Top of the world
- Perfectly Stunning
- deeply satisfying
- exquisitely delicious
And yes finally do note that when you are sending written messages these matters a lot more because the person with whom you are communicating with is visualizing you metaphorically. And when communicating on one to one basis your gestures must compliment the words you say otherwise this may not create the impression you wanted to make.
By : Syed Shahzad Ali
HR Expert in Pakistan
